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Growing Vicariously: When Your Garden Takes the Back Seat to Life

You could have told me, but I wouldn’t have believed you… No summer garden, just because I had a baby, in November?! Crazy. But true nonetheless.

This time last year I was five months pregnant picturing how life would be with an infant. I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but somehow I’d manage to take care of the house, the husband, and the dog, prepare delicious fresh meals, tend the garden, blog and socialize all with baby attached to me, snuggled up in the Moby. Ha! The past 7 months with my son have not been quite as idyllic as I dreamed. Is it for anyone?! Even though “they” told me having a baby would change everything, I couldn’t fully comprehend how. I do now. Many of the things I enjoy doing most, like gardening and blogging, have taken a back seat to caring for the baby, the house (we’re moving next month) and adjusting to my new role as a mom.

So here we are in the midst of a beautiful summer, but am I picking beautiful fresh strawberries or anticipating the harvest of sweet corn right from my backyard? Noooo. Am I bitter? Honestly, no, I’m not. I can’t say I’m not disappointed. Mainly that I’m not one of those Super Mom types that seems to effortlessly find time to get everything done and look beautiful doing it. But this first year with my baby, however difficult, is so precious and brief, I really don’t mind.

Besides, not having a garden this year has given me the opportunity to garden vicariously through other local gardeners. I’ll get to do something else that I love to do - be nosey! I’m going to see what’s going in local gardens and farms and share that with you! I can find out their best tips, as well as their struggles - and maybe even score some heirloom seeds for next year, if I’m lucky ;)

If you are lucky (and live in San Diego County) I may feature your garden! If you have a vegetable garden and would like to be interviewed for a future post, join my Flickr group, Show What You Grow, and upload photos of your garden. We’ll select someone to be featured at the end of the summer.

 

Photo by Kari Burks


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3 Comments Add a Comment

MissMOE says:

How fun--to be able to look at different gardens. I garden at a community garden. One of my favorite things to do is to walk through the gardens looking at everyone else's gardens. I always walk away with lots of inspiration. Enjoy your baby's first summer!

6/29/2010 11:50:18 AM

Tina Fava says:

Thank you so much for writing this. I too, have had a baby in the last year. I have felt absolutely inadequate that I have not been able to do more than the most basic and necessary household chores, much less garden. It helps to know I am not alone, and perhaps not inadequate.

6/29/2010 1:53:34 PM

Kari Burks says:

Thanks for your comment, Tina. No one can really prepare you for how hard it is being a mom! I think we all feel inadequate in some ways, but it helps to let go of trying to be "Super Mom" :) Thanks MissMOE, we're having a great summer so far. I'm excited to see different gardens, I hope you enjoy the posts. A community garden sounds like fun - I should see if there's one in my area.

7/7/2010 9:39:29 PM